Dear Expectant Mother,
Greetings from Shelby and Troy in the Oakland Hills! Thank you for considering us as parents for your child. We have always dreamed of sharing our lives with a child, and we couldn’t be more excited to see our dream become a reality through adoption. We know this must be a challenging time for you and we would be honored to talk more about your wishes for your child’s future. We hope this letter gives you a sense of what we care about and who we are as a family and would welcome the opportunity to speak with you.
With respect and gratitude,
Troy & Shelby
Our Lifestyle & Values
- We are an active, engaged & fun-loving couple
- We cherish quality time with our nieces, nephews & friends’ children
- We enjoy daily hikes on nearby trails with our dog, Jackson.
- We relish hide & seek playtime with Maggie, our kitty.
- We are avid world travelers (30+ countries & counting!)
- We are passionate UC Berkeley football & basketball fans.
- We are honored to support local children’s charities & education programs for athletes.
- We are happy cooks who love sharing meals with friends & family.
We met at a restaurant in San Francisco—Troy was celebrating his uncle’s 50th birthday and Shelby was unwinding with work colleagues. Troy spotted Shelby from across the room and knew he had to meet her. We immediately connected over our shared interest in politics, travel and baseball. Within a year, we were married.
Our life together has an easy rhythm to it. Most evenings, we make dinner and talk about our day, then kick back with a good book or favorite podcast. On weekends, we like to cook for friends and family, hike with our dog, Jackson, connect with neighbors and work on projects around the house.
We are big sports fans, so a typical Saturday might include going to a Cal Berkeley football or basketball game or watching the SF Giants or Golden State Warriors play. We’re also happy travelers, as passionate about exploring our own beautiful state as we are about experiencing other cultures around the globe. It’s exciting to think of sharing this with a child, watching his or her own horizons expand with each new experience.
Our Friends & Family
We have a big and supportive circle of family and friends. While Shelby’s parents divorced when she was young, each subsequently remarried their “forever” partner, both of whom have had a lasting impact on her life. Shelby’s mom, step-father and her brother and his wife (who is expecting in April!) live 90 minutes north of us. We love attending their backyard get-togethers with a fun bunch of aunts, uncles and cousins. Shelby’s father and stepmother live in Jersey City, New Jersey. They instilled a love of travel and culture in Shelby at a young age. We maintain a strong relationship with them and her other brother, who lives in Minneapolis; we talk frequently and visit one another a few times a year.
While Troy grew up in Pueblo, Colorado, most of his family followed him out to California and now call the Bay Area home. Troy lost his mother in 2011 and she is never far from his heart or mind. Troy’s mom, along with his late grandma and grandpa, instilled in him a strong sense of family. His two sisters and their families live nearby, as does his favorite uncle, Tio Bobby, and extended family, whom we see regularly.
About Shelby, By Troy
Shelby is beautiful, smart and talented, but what I most admire about her is her dedication to family and friends. She had an immediate bond with my family, whom she embraced with unshakable devotion and love. Shelby is a strong, independent woman and she will stand-up to injustice, but is also the first person to put people at ease in almost any situation. I love these contrasts in her.
Shelby is a successful marketing professional, an amazing cook, and a lifelong athlete: she loves her Masters swimming workouts, cycling classes and practicing yoga.
Shelby has a gentle, nurturing nature that she has showered on our dog Jackson and cat Maggie. She is a natural caregiver who always ensures that those around her feel at ease. She is wonderful with kids, and I know that whoever is lucky enough to call her “mom” will never know a moment without her pure, unconditional love.
About Troy, by Shelby
Troy is the most genuinely optimistic person I know. He’s always able to see the best in people, a wonderful quality that has impacted many lives. He’s also as generous a person as you will ever meet.
I’m inspired by Troy’s personal story. He was raised by a young single mother and his grandparents, No one in Troy’s family had ever attended college, but he knew he wanted to be an attorney at a young age. He was determined! He entered UC Berkeley on a baseball scholarship, went on to graduate from UC Davis law school, and is now a partner at a well-respected San Francisco law firm. With all his success, Troy has never forgotten where he came from, and is devoted to his family.
In Troy’s free time, he enjoys golfing with a great group of friends, supporting his alma mater, and spending time with family. Troy is a loyal friend and loving husband, and I know he will be a madly devoted father. Over the years, Troy has been a favorite of our nieces and nephews, as well as many of our friends’ children. Troy will be a warm, caring, and patient dad—I can’t wait to see how much fun he will be with our child.
Our Home & Community
We love our home and neighborhood in the Oakland Hills, east of San Francisco. We are a few short blocks away from the East Bay parks and hiking trails, which are a big part of our outdoor routine with our dog, Jackson. We are close to our next-door neighbors and appreciate the way people look out for each other in our diverse community. There are kids of all ages nearby, and it’s a wonderful place to raise a family.
Our Parenting Values
We would love nothing more than to offer our child a loving home full of friends and family, where all people are welcomed and accepted for who they are. We place a high value on education and are committed to ensuring that our child is exposed to a wide range of cultures, perspectives, and life experiences. Our hope is that our child will grow up to see him or herself as a citizen of the world, caring for our planet and all of us who live here.
We can’t wait to share the holiday traditions of both of our families, such as visiting Sleepy Hollow at Halloween, shivering through the Thanksgiving Day Parade in New York City, Christmas vacations in Hawaii, Rome or Lake Tahoe (a beautiful mountain lake a few hours away), and big family gatherings to celebrate Easter. At the same time, we’re eager to build new family traditions with our little one.
Thank you for reading our letter. We hope to hear from you—we would love the opportunity to tell you more about ourselves and answer any questions you may have.
We can be reached toll-free at 1-833-TSADOPT (1-833-872-3678) or by email at TroyandShelbyAdopt@gmail.com. You can also reach our warm and helpful adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius and Holly Wotherspoon at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at email@example.com. You can also visit their website at www.adamsromer.com.