Filip and Phil

Dear Expectant Mother,

Phil and Filip

Hello! We are Phil & Filip (yes, we do have the same name)!  We met ten years ago and have been married for three years. We have built a strong relationship based on love, trust, humor, and kindness, and we can’t wait to welcome a child into our home. We admire you for making this difficult decision. We can promise you that your child will be welcomed open-heartedly into our loving home. 

We are a multicultural family. Our child will grow up learning Portuguese, Spanish, English and Serbian languages and culture. We’ll share home-cooked meals and regular outdoor playtime in our diverse and family-oriented neighborhood of Redwood City, a Silicon Valley town 30 miles south of San Francisco.  We have been blessed with stable jobs in science and engineering, and Phil is excited to take a year off from work to be a stay-at-home dad. We will create a nurturing environment and provide opportunities for our child to grow, and explore his or her interests.

About Us

We met on the first day of graduate school—but it was another five years before we ran into each other again—literally—since we collided while jogging around the university campus! After reconnecting, we started running together and realized that we had much more in common than just our names. We both studied science and were excited to use our skills to find cures to disease. We love adventure— whether exploring new cultures abroad or testing new recipes in the kitchen.  At home, our favorite thing to do is spend afternoons on our porch and socialize with our family and friends over home-cooked meals and tasty desserts.

On our second official date, we talked about our dreams for the future and that having a family some day was important to us. Now, ten years later, we are prepared and excited to become first-time daddies together.We love to babysit Phil’s young nieces in our home, we have taught them how to play tennis, draw animals in pencil and bake cupcakes for their parents.

We both love the outdoors—running, biking, swimming, and especially hiking in the Sierras. We are excited to share the beauty of nature with our child—watch the first rays come over snowcapped peaks, explore starfish in tide pools, and chase butterflies in a spring meadow.

Filip by Phil

Sitting with friend's toddlers.
Sitting with friend’s toddlers.

I knew Filip was special the first moment I met him, and I feel lucky that I get to spend my life with him. He has an enthusiasm for life that he shares with everyone around him. He is joyful, silly, kind and gentle.These qualities bring everyone closer to him, but especially children. Filip is the person at a BBQ that has a troupe of toddlers trailing behind him within 15minutes, excited to play and have fun.

Filip was born in Serbia (Eastern Europe) before he moved to Canada as a young teenager with his parents and older sister. After high school, Filip moved to Princeton for college and then Stanford to study engineering. He now manages a team in a start-up company that develops scientific instruments to read DNA. While we visit his family often in Canada, his sister is very keen to fly down and offer her help as an auntie.

Filip has an amazing range of talents and he is good at pretty much everything he does! He is a gifted musician who plays violin and guitar. He is an accomplished triathlete who completed an IronMan competition.He is an incredible artist whose paintings and stained glass windows decorate our walls. He also speaks three languages fluently (English, Serbian, and Spanish). He is excited to share his talents and nourish the creative spirit in our own child.

Phil by Filip

Cooking Portuguese fritters.
Cooking Portuguese fritters.

What I love about Phil is that he is such a good listener and a communicator. As a middle child in his family he played the peacemaker growing up. He is one of those people who always know what to say to help a situation, whether it’s comforting a friend, encouraging a relative or diffusing a heated argument. His heart has an enormous capacity to feel for others, and I am very thankful to have such an understanding and thoughtful partner.

Phil grew up in a large Portuguese family in Massachusetts with an older brother, a younger sister, and a whole lot of cousins. It’s one of those multi-generational households where old-world tradition meets American life; grandparents play cards while children run around playing soccer. His family has warmly welcomed me into their fold.

After graduating from Stanford, Phil became an accomplished biologist. He has worked on developing treatments for heart disease and breast cancer. He is now a chief scientist working on new treatments for lung cancer.  At home, Phil tends to tomatoes, beans, herbs, figs and oranges in our home garden. He has supernatural abilities in the kitchen, honed by years of cooking with his Portuguese mother and grandmother, and looks forward to teaching our child these skills as a way of bringing our family together at the dinner table while honoring our traditions and history.

Our Home

Our Redwood city home.
Our Redwood city home.

Ever since we bought our Spanish style home in 2015, we worked to make it our own. We spent many weekends swinging hammers, bolting beams and painting doors. Outside, Phil has made the back yard into a garden where we grow our own vegetables.  Filip is an experienced beekeeper, and makes wildflower honey that we share with friends and family. We now have a cozy house and a bountiful mini-farm that will make a nurturing place for a child.

Redwood City is tucked between redwood forests and the shores of San Francisco Bay which are great places for a child to run around and explore the natural world. There’s a Spanish immersion elementary school two blocks from our house, and we are walking distance to the main city park and the public library. We feel lucky to be in such a wonderful place to raise our family.

About Parenting

Thanksgiving with the family.
Thanksgiving with the family.

Both of us believe the most important job for a parent is to provide a safe, nurturing environment where a child always feels loved, supported and valued. Phil was raised in the Christian tradition, and we both feel strongly that a child should be raised to love and respect those around them. We also believe in the power of education to help children explore their interests, build self-confidence and better understand the world around them.To nurture our child’s curiosity we plan to read books, visit museums and aquariums, and travel to national parks. We both love to travel, and we think exploring other cultures around the world will teach our child tolerance and compassion, values that are dear to us. In particular, we would ensure that our child speaks at least one foreign language (likely Spanish), which will help them understand more deeply another culture.

Blessings

We have been blessed with good fortune, loving friends and families, and rewarding, steady jobs. Nothing would make us happier than sharing these blessings with a child. Thank you for taking the time to consider us as you make this important decision. 

We can be reached toll free at 1-888-477-5151 orphilandfilip@gmail.com. You can also reach our warm and helpful adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius and Holly Wotherspoon, to guide you through the process, at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at info@adamsromer.com. You can also visit their website at www.adamsromer.com.