Dear Expectant Mother,
Well hello…it’s nice to “meet” you. We’re Catherine and Caleb, and we wish to begin by thanking you for reading our letter. We admire your courage in considering adoption as we know this is a very difficult decision. We would like you to consider us as loving parents for your child, and hope that whatever you decide puts your mind and heart at peace.
We are a loving, outdoorsy, hardworking, yet fun couple who want to build a family more than anything else in the world. We work (Catherine’s the friendliest lawyer you’ll ever meet; Caleb’s a carpenter), we farm, we swim (pools, oceans, rivers, and lakes), we both do woodworking projects, he cooks, she sews, and we dance all the time.
We want this letter to give you a little window into our lives, and hope we have the opportunity to speak with you one day soon to hear your hopes and dreams for your child.
- Animal lover
- Fairy Godmother
- Kitchen guru
Our Love & Life Together
We met at a café in San Francisco and within five minutes we were sharing everything, including Catherine’s sandwich. By our second date, we were planting a rose bush, picking veggies, and getting eggs from Catherine’s chickens to make a farm brunch.
Although both of us went to law school, Catherine was the one to pursue a career as a non-profit/trust lawyer, and has built a very successful practice. Caleb went straight into carpentry from law school. On the side we have turned a shared passion for farming and gardening into a flower, produce, and egg business.
We have a tiny snuggly rescue dog named Lilli who we both completely adore. Catherine had her when she met Caleb but he quickly won her heart with his attentiveness and snuggles. We can’t wait to share our hearts and our lives with a child, who will be surrounded by love and laughter.
I was born and raised in San Francisco, with parents from Denmark and New York. My parents still live in the house my sister and I grew up in (10 minutes from our SF apartment) and I see them every week. As a child, they were the sweetest, silliest, and most encouraging grown-ups I knew. They took us camping all over California, and travelled with us all around the world. When we got home, they brought us stacks of books from the local library so we could keep traveling in our heads. They helped me discover writing, music, building, and gardening.
My entire life, I’ve been surrounded by family support, even when I made the decision, after three years of law school, to be a carpenter instead. As a family, we’ve always valued hard work, passion, kindness, and exploration more than “paper” accomplishments. I plan to pass those values on to our child.
About Caleb, by Catherine
Caleb is the love of my life and the best man I have ever met (and I have kissed enough frogs to know how lucky I am). For me he is the soulmate I didn’t dare to dream I could ever have. He is caring, smart, funny, clever, hardworking, honest, and silly. He is a fantastic cook and actually enjoys cleaning! He helps me relax and supports me in all my endeavors. Though I have wanted to become a mom for my entire life, I am glad I waited, because it means my kids get to have THIS GUY as their Dad. When I see him with our nieces and nephews and godchildren I cannot believe how wonderful he is with them. He has limitless energy for playing silly games, chase, and answering six million questions twenty times over. He is also one of the snuggliest human beings on the planet. I can’t wait for our child to feel the joy and comfort of being in Caleb’s arms.
I grew up in Virginia, but followed a wandering path after college that led me through New York, London and Paris then finally to San Francisco for the last 18 years. I picked up a lot of interesting skills and experiences through those travels: I was a bartender in London and Bangkok; a backpacker in Latin America and Southeast Asia; a seamstress/designer in New York; a cancer researcher in San Francisco; and a domestic violence counselor. That last experience led me to my career in law—I found it the best way for me to fulfill my passion for helping people. I paid for much of law school by working as a professional “princess” for children’s parties where I made and dressed up in sparkly costumes, did face-painting, performed magic tricks, had tea parties, and did crafts with thousands of wonderful children. I am an avid seamstress and enjoy restoring vintage clothing, teaching people to mend, and making costumes.
My parents and two brothers still live in Virginia but I visit often. I helped take care of my younger brother growing up, so he will always be “The Baby” to me, even though he now has three kids of his own. My older brother thinks so similarly to me I often feel like I’m talking to myself! I completely ADORE my two nieces and two nephews and have a very special bond with my oldest niece, Joy. We play dress-up, do craft projects, garden, and have wonderful silly make-believe games, as I plan to do with our own child.
About Catherine, by Caleb
Catherine is a powerhouse and a flower. She is my personal hero and also a huge goofball. From the moment we met, I was charmed by her wit, her accomplishments, her zest, and her style. Catherine is a super enthusiastic and empathetic person, and has a vast and diverse group of loving friends, but she especially shines around children. Nieces and nephews, friend’s and neighbor’s kids—they can’t get enough of her. She makes them Halloween costumes from scratch in a single day, organizes farm tours in wheelbarrows on a moment’s notice, and is above all extremely attuned to their needs. She knows just how to shape a question, a comment, or a look that entirely changes a bad cry to a good laugh. I can’t wait to share Catherine’s love and gifts with our child.
Our parents have both been married for over 50 years, showing deep commitment to family life. Both our families are excited we are adding a child to our family—they adore Avery and see him often. We all value spending time with family at holidays and birthdays, but also for everyday times too. Avery and Grandpa run trains on the train set, Pop fishes with the boys and Gramm plays chase with Avery to squeals of laughter and joy. We regularly take family vacations to Palm Springs, Lake Tahoe, the Sierras and Hawaii. You can be certain your child will be surrounded by adoring cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents who will be there to welcome and support your child as he or she grows.
Where We Live
We share our time between our apartment in San Francisco and our farm in the country an hour north. After decades of city living we are enjoying spending most of our time in the country working on our dream house and our farm business, but we usually go to San Francisco a couple days a week for work meetings and to see friends and family. We are excited that our children will get to experience the wild joys of living in the country and take advantage of all the arts and excitement the city has to offer. Our three-bedroom SF apartment is spacious, open, welcoming, and green. It is on the top floor and is flooded with sunshine all day. There is plenty of space for a child to play, learn, and grow. It is filled with houseplants inside and the outside is a mini-urban farm with veggies everywhere we can fit them, apple and cherry trees in the backyard and citrus on our bedroom patio. The house is full of “do it yourself” touches and furniture we have both made. It is steps from an AMAZING children’s playground.
Our farm is an hour north of San Francisco in the adorable country town of Petaluma. The house has three bedrooms and a giant kitchen just begging to be filled with family. The vegetable beds are in the front yard, and in the back, just past a gorgeous stand of giant redwoods, there is an orchard filled with all kinds of fruit trees. Our chickens live right by the giant back deck where the three barn cats that came with the land like to bask in the sun. It is a child’s dreamland and nothing beats the wildlife—we have owls in our trees, possums and raccoons wandering at night, friendly deer who come right up to the house, hawks, salamanders, and frogs galore! It is ten minutes from the quaint Victorian-era downtown and in an excellent school district.
We both had our best experiences growing up while we were exploring: Learning to play instruments, trying new sports, reading imaginative books, meeting different people, and walking through wilderness and cities. We want to give these experiences to our child, because they helped us to define ourselves. But we also know they require a safe home base, where there is family you can turn to for help, advice and understanding. We have a strong connection to other cultures, particularly Mexico: Catherine has traveled there extensively, we visit there yearly, and Caleb is fluent in Spanish. We plan to raise our child to be bilingual and send him or her to schools that include languages and other cultures as part of the curriculum. We also plan to raise our child with plenty of laughter, fun and a strong foundation that will empower him or her to be a good presence in the world. We are passionate about nature and we take responsibility for caring for our planet. Both of us were raised with one stay-at-home parent, and we will make sure our career paths allow for at least one of us to be home all the time.
The most important thing we want you to take away from this letter is the respect and gratitude we have for you—making an adoptive placement plan is a selfless act and we thank you so much for considering us as your child’s parents. If you have any questions for us, we would love to hear from you. You can reach us toll free at: 1-888-23-ADOPT, email us at: US@catandcal.com, see us on Instagram: @adoptivefamily or http://instagram.com/adoptivefamily, or visit our website: http://catandcal.com. You can also reach our warm and helpful adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius and Holly Wotherspoon at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also visit their website at www.adamsromer.com.