Nancy and Carla

Dear Expectant Mother, 

Hi! We are Carla, Nancy and Avery, a splendid little family who are very excited to add to our family of three. We have both wanted to become parents all our lives and have had the honor and privilege of raising our two year-old son, Avery, whom we adopted in 2016. We appreciate you considering placing your little one with us to nurture and love in the years to come. We have great respect and admiration for the decision you are making, and can only imagine the courage it must take to entrust this life to other parents. Thank you so much for taking the time to learn about us and our dream of growing our treasured family. We would love the opportunity to get to know you and your hopes for your child.

About Us

With Avery

We are blessed to have found one another and share a wonderful, loving relationship. We met over ten years ago while volunteering for the same organization. We were drawn to one another based on shared values of honesty and integrity, a delight in children and our desire to be parents. We were married in 2010, joined by family and many friends.

We are a dynamic couple who are committed to raising our son, serving our neighbors, and are actively involved with our Church, which is a progressive faith community. We love nature and enjoy hiking and camping in the mountains and kayaking on the California coast. Carla loves skiing in nearby Tahoe and Nancy enjoys sailing in the Santa Barbara area, on the central coast of California, where her parents live. We both love the theater, especially musicals, and we sing and dance together around the house like we are on stage! We have such fun together now as a family with Avery, going on vacations, playing in the local parks, swimming, hiking and adventuring with friends. We also really appreciate our down time at home, whether playing with Avery, trying new recipes, listening to music, watching movies or puttering in the yard.

We were so fortunate to become moms nearly two years ago when Avery joined our family. Avery is a very curious child and delights in new experiences and challenges. He loves climbing, reading, playing with cars and trains and riding his bike. He looks forward to his playtime with friends, his swimming lessons, and weekly pre-school time with Mommy (Carla). He has a generous heart and an adventuresome spirit. He is gentle with babies and ready to become a big brother, and we are extremely excited to include a new child in the wonderful family we have made.

About Carla (By Nancy)

Carla kayaking with nephew at Pine Flat Lake

Carla is a dream come true for me. She is a wonderful listener, confidante and problem solver. She is a grounded woman who is full of joy and enthusiasm, and is always looking for ways to better understand the people around her and give back to her world.

Carla grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area and loved to play outdoors: building forts, riding bikes and playing sports in the park. Her family enjoyed camping together and volunteering for community activities. She currently volunteers in Avery’s class, planning fun outings and activities. Her parents and sister, (with her family), live a short distance away in the Sierra foothills and she and Avery visit them often, spending time with Avery’s older cousins at little league sporting events and the park. Besides being an athlete and a great softball player, Carla is an avid Giants baseball fan and she enjoys watching women’s college basketball and softball.

Carla is a dedicated Marriage and Family Therapist with her own practice, and is currently working part-time to devote most of her time to Avery. Carla is an amazing Mom. She is very patient and has a nurturing instinct that notices the little things that are so important to children.

She praises Avery’s accomplishments and gently sets limits. When he was learning to feed himself Carla would raise her hands over her head and say “Superstar!” After a few times Avery began to celebrate his own successful bites and claps now anytime he does things well. Now that he’s exploring language with an ever-expanding vocabulary, Carla plays with language, toys and fun sounds to encourage Avery’s development every day. Our home is a fun, playful and lively place to be.

Family at Santa Barbara Mission

Our Family

Our parents have both been married for over 50 years, showing deep commitment to family life. Both our families are excited we are adding a child to our family—they adore Avery and see him often. We all value spending time with family at holidays and birthdays, but also for everyday times too. Avery and Grandpa run trains on the train set, Pop fishes with the boys and Gramm plays chase with Avery to squeals of laughter and joy. We regularly take family vacations to Palm Springs, Lake Tahoe, the Sierras and Hawaii. You can be certain your child will be surrounded by adoring cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents who will be there to welcome and support your child as he or she grows.

With niece

About Nancy (By Carla)

Nancy is a kind and gentle soul with an infectious laugh and a generous spirit. Her great smile and outgoing, kind nature are what first drew me to her. Seeing her with Avery has been pure magic. She is the calm presence in any situation, and the one that family and friends turn to for support. She notices the little things that bring peace and joy to us all and shares her gifts generously.

Nancy was born and raised with her older brother in Santa Barbara. Her parents were both educators, and they provided a stable and loving home, teaching her to be kind and patient and encouraging her to strive to be the best that she could be. As a youth, Nancy enjoyed sailing, playing volleyball, dancing ballet and playing on the beach. She was drawn to children early in life, and ran youth programs through the local YMCA and a family camp in the Sierras.

Nancy graduated from the University of California and is now a Trust & Fiduciary Specialist with a local bank. Away from work she enjoys exploring the community with Avery, sailing on San Francisco Bay, gardening, and hiking the many trails in the East Bay. Nancy answers to “Mama” with Avery and “Aunt Nancy” for a variety of nieces and nephews. These kids stop what they are doing when Aunt Nancy walks in the room and run into her open arms. Nancy is an amazing Mom and I delight in sharing this experience with her every day. From the moment Avery snuggled into her chest, Nancy has been a playful, engaging, gentle and reassuring presence.

Our Home

Our home in the East Bay of San Francisco is the perfect place for our family. Inside we have plenty of space, and the Winnie the Pooh nursery is in a lovely room that gets beautiful sunlight in the afternoon. We enjoy gardening in our yard, and one of Avery’s summer highlights was eating tomatoes off the plants each day. Our town is safe, close-knit and kid-friendly. We are close to the water, have lots of parks and a swim complex with a lap pool and a baby pool where we can play in the water with our children. Our town has a “small town” feel, with parades down First Street, a great Farmers Market and an annual tree-lighting ceremony with Santa. Our neighbors are terrific, with children of all ages on our block.

We share our home with our Golden Retriever, Lily, who is sweet, has a ton of energy and is wonderful with kids of all ages! She plays chase and fetch with Avery and is always open to his many hugs.

Our Values

Hiking with Lily at Sugar Bowl, CA

Our common goal as parents is to provide a safe, loving home where our children are nurtured. Our friends would tell you we are great moms, spirited, loyal, giving folks who live an abundant life. We will always encourage our children to follow their dreams; to maintain a sense of adventure and independence; and to have respect, kindness and tolerance for others. We will provide unconditional love, support, guidance and compassion. We believe structure is important but also appreciate spontaneity. We feel it is important to experiment with a variety of activities and experiences to help our children identify their likes and dislikes. We value learning and travel; both of us are lifelong learners who enjoyed school. We will provide education and enrichment to our children by sharing our love of literature, music and nature. We want our children’s life to be filled with fun activities yet also make time to simply “be.” Developing friendships and having opportunities to play with other children are two important factors as well. Your child will have the chance to develop those bonds within our family, with our friends and in our community.

Thank You

Thank you for letting us share a little of ourselves, and reading of our dream to grow our family. We would be honored to become parents again and will treasure your child every day. We are deeply committed to each other and will honor your needs along the way as we build a strong, loving family through adoption. Our contact information is or 877-345-8259. You can also contact our friendly adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius and Holly Wotherspoon at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (800-823-6788), or email them at You can visit their website at