Dear expectant Mother,
Thank you for considering me as an adoptive parent for your child. I hope this letter gives you a glimpse into my life and the loving family and home I am prepared to offer a baby. I am committed to sharing with my child where he or she came from, and your courage and love in making this decision. I hope I have the opportunity to tell you more about my hopes and dreams for this child and hear your own as well.
About me and my passions
I am an outgoing person, and I was raised to be non-judgmental and considerate of others. By nature I am affectionate and genuine and I connect easily with a variety of people.
I grew up with my sister and parents in Pasadena, California, which is one of the greatest gifts my parents gave to me. Growing up in an ethnically diverse area, we learned the value of living among people of different backgrounds and cultures to enrich our own life experience. That remains one of my fundamental values in life as an adult. My youth was filled with fun family road trips to Yosemite, Palm Springs, San Diego and various Southern California beaches. I also got to visit Disneyland quite a lot! I loved riding my bike, playing outside with the neighbor kids and taking part in activities like Girl Scouts, sports camp and various other summer camps. I looked forward to family “dinner and movie” nights, or just staying home and playing board games, watching TV or playing with our dog.
When I was 11, I went on a student exchange program to Mexico City. I am still in contact with several of the kids who took part in the program all these years later. I went to the University of Southern California and graduated from Humboldt State University with a degree in English Literature. I studied Spanish Language and History one summer in
Mexico. I have always loved writing, especially when I am traveling. I love the outdoors and playing tennis (I have played in several tennis tournaments). I enjoy staying current on social issues as well as watching historical documentaries.
I am an avid fan of college and pro sports (football, basketball, baseball, soccer and tennis). I enjoy a variety of the arts, including listening to music and going to concerts, seeing movies and live theatre, museum-going and hiking. I also love taking walks with my dog Scout and socializing with friends and family.
I have worked in the sports and entertainment business for over 25 years. My dad’s influence (and both my parents’ support and encouragement) led me to choose the sports business as my profession. As a child, my dad often took me to LA area sporting events, which began a life-long passion for sports. I pursued a career in sports marketing and business development and worked in New York City for the National Basketball Association for seven years, among other sports organizations. I am currently working as Vice President of Business Development for a non-profit organization (Special Olympics Oregon) in Portland.
Family and traditions
Growing up our family was very close and has remained so. My father passed away in 2008. My sister, mother, relatives and numerous extended family members are spread across California, Connecticut and New York. No matter how far apart we may live, I continue to spend vacations, special events and most holidays with my family, either in the San Francisco Bay Area or Southern California. I usually spend a week with my sister in Pasadena during New Year’s and we attend the Rose Parade and/or Rose Bowl Football Game. I love celebrating the major holidays and decorating my home. I am excited to be able to do that with my child!
My home and neighborhood
I live in Portland, Oregon. I recently moved into a new home that is walking distance to a small village with coffee houses, bakeries, a book store, a toy store and a variety of restaurants. I am in a safe neighborhood with a beautiful park, a community center with indoor and outdoor sports activities and camps, a farmers market, the Oregon Zoo, organic gardens and gourmet food trucks. My home is warm and comfortable. I have stuffed animals, music boxes, several children’s books and my favorite small chairs saved from my childhood. I have a drawer full of toddler size sweaters, socks and blankets that my mother knitted for my child. My nursery is almost complete!
My values and support
I live my life by a set of standards of which I am proud. I believe in treating people with respect and that we must give back to our community. I feel we need to cultivate our relationships just as we do our careers. I believe that family and friends are important, and that varied life experiences make for a life well-lived. I value integrity and hard work. I believe that failing at something can make a person stronger, and often teaches valuable lessons. I value education, and the importance of discussion —whether that be social and political issues or sports, art, literature and film. I plan to share these values and interests with my child, and hope that through these ideals and experiences, he or she will have a solid foundation to lead a happy and fulfilling life.
“I call her Jaba Mary Deel, the name she gave herself when she was learning how to talk. Growing up I remember Jana being a very active, social, industrious and athletic kid. She kept my parents on their toes and was a source of pride and joy. She grew into a compassionate and caring person with a warm and endearing demeanor and great sense of humor. Family is important to her and she has always wanted to be a parent. She has always been there for me—she is my biggest fan—and I am so happy that her dream is finally happening. I know Jana will be a fabulous parent!”
–My sister, Sari Steel
“I have known Jana all my life. While my family was living in Mexico City, Jana would regularly make the trip to visit us. Jana is always there for our family, giving my mother comfort or advice on crucial life decisions. In the summer of 2016, Jana helped me move into my dorm when I started college at UC Berkeley. She made that weekend especially memorable by getting us tickets to the Dodgers vs. Giants game in San Francisco. That is an example of how Jana has always been there for me throughout my life. Every step of the way I know that Jana will be there by my side with her infectious warmth and unwavering love.”
–Andrés Martinez, son of my close friend Bonnie Pais Martinez
My commitment to you
I have always wanted children and hope to soon become a parent through adoption. I wish to be able to share with my child my own wonderful experiences of growing up. I have an amazing network of family and friends who have known me since childhood. I also have developed wonderful relationships in my Portland, Oregon community.
I am confident that I will provide a broad and strong support system for your child. If I am fortunate enough to be your choice, I will love your child unconditionally. I will instill self-confidence and teach him or her that anything is possible if you are focused and prepared. I will provide an environment in which he or she will feel strong enough to attempt anything. I will share my family traditions and build new ones. I will encourage learning, teamwork and the importance of a good education.
To nurture, love and watch this young person grow would be my greatest joy, and I hope that I will have the opportunity to share this experience with your child. I am happy to answer any questions you have about me and can be reached toll free at (415) 533-9779 or by email at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also reach my friendly and helpful adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius and Holly Wotherspoon at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at email@example.com. You can also visit their website at www.adamsromer.com.