Dear Expectant Mother,
Hello! We are Zack, David and Sophia from Oakland, California. Thank you for taking the time to get to know us. We understand that you want to make the right choice for you and your child and appreciate your considering us as an adoptive family. We would love to be there to support you during your journey and we hope to connect with you in a way that feels comfortable. We are very excited at the prospect of growing our family and we welcome the opportunity to learn more about you.
We met in college and have been together for over sixteen years. We were introduced to each other by mutual friends and have enjoyed many laughter-filled days together ever since. Zack proposed to David in 2008, the very day same-sex marriage became legal in California, and we were married a few months later at San Francisco’s beautiful city hall. Sophia came into our lives through an open adoption in February of 2015 and has brought us tremendous joy. Zack is a high school assistant principal who enjoys helping students achieve their potential and David is an investigative analyst for the federal government who enjoys solving mysteries. We pride ourselves on the work we do to help others and to make the world a better place. We are fortunate that David has a flexible schedule and can care for our children during the week while Zack has summers and several weeks off throughout the year to allow us to travel and spend quality time together as a family.
Our parents love being grandparents and can’t wait to have another grandchild. Grandma Toni lives five minutes away, next to one of the city’s best parks. Grandpa Jeff, Grandma Linda, and Grandma Mary are also close by. They see Sophia regularly, read her books, take her on walks, and show her all the things that make the San Francisco Bay Area so awesome. They are all very excited to include another child in these activities. We are a very close family and frequently visit our relatives in Alaska, New York, and Los Angeles. Our relationship with Sophia’s birthmother is great, and we consider her a part of our family. While she lives in another state, we plan regular visits and keep in contact with her through phone and video chat. We would love to learn about what kind of contact you would like to have before and after the birth and look forward to honoring your wishes.
About David (by Zack)
With David, I always have fun and enjoy the present. He is infinitely patient, protective, and caring, which makes him an excellent husband and a wonderful dad. David is very intelligent and loves to learn. He often talks about how he can’t wait to help our children with their homework and school projects, especially in the fields of art and science. He already loves explaining how the world works to Sophia and delights in her every accomplishment, no matter how small. David enjoys art (including creating it), reading, watching movies, and visiting museums. He is also very health conscious, enjoys exercising and the outdoors, and will support and motivate our children as they grow and pursue whatever fascinates them.
About Zack (by David)
Zack is one of the happiest and most adaptable people I’ve ever met. Zack has made me laugh every day since we met, and he is one of the reasons Sophia is such a happy child. Zack is a gifted cook, a talented athlete, a brilliant educator, and a phenomenal dad. He loves reading to Sophia, and does so often. He frequently takes our daughter swimming at the nearby public pool, and runs with her at one of our beautiful local redwood forests. When he’s not making Sophia her favorite home-cooked meals, Zack spends his time reading books, training for half-marathons, and trying to beat his husband at chess. Zack is also fluent in Spanish, and we’re looking forward to raising our children in a bilingual household filled with fun family vacations to Spanish-speaking countries.
Sophia greets each day with a smile and is one of the happiest kids we know. She loves to explore, visit new places, interact with people, and discover the musical properties of practically everything found in the kitchen. She especially enjoys reading and talking about animals, construction equipment, and outer space. That she is always taking care of the younger children at her daycare shows us what a wonderful big sister she will be!
Home and Community
We settled in Oakland, California, because of the city’s great diversity, wonderful cultural opportunities, and closeness to our awesome families. It is important for us to raise our children in an environment where it’s possible to know many different types of people and to have a wide range of experiences. We spend our weekends visiting beautiful local parks, checking out science and art museums, and spending time with family and friends. We greatly enjoy having our friends and family over for dinner. One of our favorite holidays is Thanksgiving, where we spend all day cooking a feast for our immediate and extended families, and a few friends. We look forward to teaching our children how fun cooking can be during this great holiday. Our house has a lovely backyard filled with grass, fruit trees, and a vegetable garden, which makes a great place for family barbecues.
Our Commitment to You
We are dedicated to providing our children with a stable home full of love, attention, and daily adventures. We believe a child can never have too many adults who care about him or her. We plan to tell our children about their roots and to stay in contact with you if that is what you wish. Our children will always know their adoption stories and the way we became a family. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter and to get to know us a little better. We look forward to connecting with you and learning about your wishes for your adoption plan.
With warmth and respect,
Zack and David