Stacy and Rob

Hello. We are Rob and Stacy from San Francisco.

We hope this letter gives you a true picture of who we are and a sense of how much your child will be loved and cared for by us. We know how difficult this decision must be for you, and we admire you for making it. We would be honored if you would consider us as a loving family for your child.

Our Life Together

We were introduced by a mutual friend in 2008. Soon after, Rob found himself desperately trying to keep up with Stacy on the ski slopes of Lake Tahoe. We first realized we shared a love of the outdoors and then that we shared a love for each other! We were married in 2010 in Lake Placid, NY, surrounded by our friends and family and the Adirondack mountains that we had both enjoyed visiting as kids.

We have been together for nearly ten years and do almost everything together. We laugh together, support each other, and have very similar values. It is important to us to have a balance between work and life. We spend as much free time as we can outside. From hiking, camping or sailing in the summer to skiing in the winter, our happy place is the great outdoors.

We feel incredibly lucky to live in California, and try to take advantage of its natural beauty whenever we can. We have also gone on some wonderful adventures together, occasionally in far-off countries that we dreamed of as kids. Most recently we enjoyed a spectacular 5-day backpack through the mountains in Italy.

Overall, we just love our life together, whether we are outside, spending time with our friends, watching a bad sci-fi movie at home (one of Rob’s favorite pastimes), cooking dinner or simply sitting in front of the fire together. We can’t wait to share these wonderful experiences with our child.

Rob (by Stacy)

About Rob

Rob is my best friend. People are naturally drawn to him—he is intelligent, outgoing, easy to talk to and has a great sense of humor. He truly cares about those around him and strives to be the best he can be in all aspects of his life. I couldn’t ask for a better partner in life.

Family and Growing Up

Rob grew up in a close-knit family in Toronto, Canada, with a younger brother and sister. His mother is from Holland, and his Dutch relatives would visit often, so he was raised to be comfortable with other cultures. His father was a research scientist and has a great sense of humor that Rob inherited. His family was always active and camping, canoeing, hiking and skiing trips in both the Canadian wilderness and the Adirondacks in NY bonded the whole family. So, it’s not surprising that Rob’s earliest love was for the outdoors—especially going to summer camp. He later became a counselor, and by age 18 he was leading week-long canoe trips. But longer summers and the California sunshine called to him, and he moved to the U.S. in 1999. He recently became a proud U.S. citizen.

His Hobbies

One of my favorite things about Rob is his curiosity about everything. He is always exploring something new, be it welding, engine rebuilds, clocks, electronics, old-school navigation, meditation, Lego, proper painting techniques—you name it.

Education and Career

It’s not surprising that Rob chose engineering as a career. He earned his graduate degree in the field, and has been part of several high-tech startups over the last 18 years. Currently he’s working in his dream industry, a space startup in San Francisco that builds satellites. It’s very cool!

Rob with Kids

Rob is great with kids and will be a terrific father. Kids are drawn to Rob because of his child-like curiosity. And he is a natural teacher. No matter how complicated the topic, he can explain things in a way kids (and adults!) can understand. When we are with our family or friends’ kids, you can bet Rob will be right there playing with them (he can teach a mean cannonball)!

Stacy (by Rob)

About Stacy

Stacy is the love of my life. Stacy has a quiet, but strong and competitive personality. She is loving, creative, loyal and straightforward. She can keep the big picture in view even when life goes sideways. She doesn’t spend time dwelling on things she can’t fix.

Family and Growing Up

Stacy grew up in a small town in New Jersey with her parents and younger brother. Their family was always close, and with extended family nearby, they would often get together for boisterous family dinners. Her parents were both active people, so she enjoyed many family trips skiing in the winters and water sports and hiking in the summers. She developed a strong bond with her brother which has lasted—he was her man of honor in our wedding. Stacy was also very close with her grandmother, with whom she shared a love for the Philadelphia Flyers hockey team.

Her Hobbies

Sports have always been a passion for Stacy. She was active in gymnastics when she was young, and then switched to tennis. She played tennis at the college level, and still plays today. Stacy loves art and has a great talent for landscape photography, which fits in nicely with our outdoor lifestyle. In 2000, she felt the draw to the west and moved to San Francisco.

Education and Career

Stacy worked hard to build a graphics design career in advertising, earning a graduate degree in the process. She works at a small agency in San Francisco where the employees are like family.

Stacy with Kids

Stacy’s eyes light up when she gets to play with the kids in our life—whether that be games and puzzles, poking at dirt, or going kayaking. She is great at losing at hide and seek and she really does know the best way to make s’mores over a campfire. On a recent ski trip, she was delighted to be able to help a little girl get on and off the chairlift. Stacy will be a wonderful mother and I can’t wait to be part of that journey with her.

Family and Friends

Family is very important to us, and even though our families live in Canada and New Jersey, we are fortunate that we can visit often. Recently we have taken week-long vacations with both sides of the family—which includes fun time with our four nieces and three nephews. We can envision our child joining in the great adventures we all have together. Everyone is excited to welcome a new little member of the family!

We are lucky to have several great groups of friends in California, whom we join on winter and summer outdoor adventures. We have several friends with kids, and some with adopted kids. Our social events have become kid-friendly. Everyone in our lives appreciates how much we want to raise a child and are overjoyed and supportive with our plans to adopt.

Our Home

We live in a cozy three-bedroom house in a family-friendly part of San Francisco. Rob has put a lot of effort into improving the house. His handiwork has resulted in a new kitchen, a deck and fence, and he is currently finishing up a rec room, which we hope to turn into a playroom. We have a bedroom ready for our child with lots of natural light which overlooks our backyard. Our house has a little bit of humor and whimsy in every room, from little sets of Lego, to the cute paper flower arrangements that Stacy makes, to the alien garden gnomes we have in our yard.

We love that our house is close to three major parks, which we walk to frequently. There is a nursery school across the street and an elementary school around the corner. San Francisco has the diversity and culture of a big city, but is small enough to have a neighborhood feel. And we are only a short drive to the beaches and mountains of beautiful Northern California.

Our New Adventure: Parenting

We look at becoming parents as our best adventure yet. We share a tremendous amount of love and want to share our love with a child. We will provide the guidance and opportunities to help our child to grow into the person he or she is meant to be. Education is important to us—we will make sure our child has the chance to get an excellent education. We are excited to share our love of the outdoors and travel so our child can experience new countries and cultures—including visiting Rob’s relatives in Holland. Between Rob’s kid-at-heart personality, and Stacy’s creative and caring nature, we know we can provide a loving, fun and fulfilling environment for our child.

Thank You

Thank you for taking the time to read our letter. It would fulfill our greatest desire to welcome a child into our home. We hope to have the opportunity to connect with you. We would be happy to share more about who we are and hear about your hopes and dreams for your child.

We can be reached toll free at 1-866-333-1138 or by email at You can also reach our warm and helpful adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius and Holly Wotherspoon at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at You can also visit their website at