Dear Expectant Mother,
Hello! We are Mike and Sue. Thank you so much for taking the time to read our letter. We can only imagine how challenging this decision must be for you, and the difficulty of deciding on the right family for your child. We will do our best to share with you some of our stories, and describe our lives together and our dreams for adding to our family. We hope to hear about your hopes and dreams for your child.
We are Mike and Sue, an engineer and a doctor living in the San Francisco Bay Area, and we have been happily married for over six years.
We discovered that we are happier, stronger and more capable together than either of us alone. Sue’s strong work ethic and Mike’s willingness to learn new skills, Mike’s grounded nature and Chai Sue’s adventurous streak, our ability to keep a sense of humor together, and our love of our time together make us who we are—a strong and loving couple.
We adopted our son, Tyler, last year, and he has been the focus and joy of our family ever since. He is adorable, happy, outgoing, and playful; he loves to be out and exploring new places. Our other “family member” is our rescue dog, Reggie, a sweet little ball of fuzz. We love our evenings at home with dinner and movie nights curled up all together on the same big comfy couch. On weekends, we enjoy working on various home improvement projects together. While Sue has discovered a talent for selecting colors and painting rooms, Mike is a handy guy—from building bookshelves and changing our lighting fixtures, to rewiring and replumbing our home. We enjoy taking day trips. Our local baylands has aquatic birds, watersports, and a playground and café, and our local county park is great for easy hikes and has Deer Hollow Farm, which includes a cool petting zoo. We enjoy spending a part of every weekend getting together with our friends and family, since building and maintaining close relationships is very important to us both.
Travel has been a big part of our lives. Every year together we have tried to travel abroad at least once. As a couple we’ve been to Hawaii, Ireland, England, Thailand, Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, Taiwan, Turkey and Morocco. We look forward to the time when our children are old enough to travel, so we can introduce them to this amazing world we live in.
About Sue (by Mike)
Sue is an amazing woman who captured my heart the first time we met with her confident nature and that special combination of intelligence, sensitivity and fun that always seems to draw people to her. She makes friends very quickly and appreciates them deeply. She also loves good times and laughter, as well as quiet times alone.
Sue was born in Taiwan and she came with her family to the U.S. when she was eight. She has fond memories of growing up with her large extended family. Her family is warm and loving. Sue’s mother, her brother and his wife live just a couple of miles away, so we get to see her family a lot. Since Tyler’s arrival, “Mama Lee” has been staying with us much of the time—she loves spending time with him. Tyler gets love and caring in Taiwanese, Mandarin and English!
As a family of immigrants, Sue’s family worked hard to succeed with their small family business and taught Sue that same work ethic. Growing up, Sue excelled in school academically as well as playing violin in her school orchestras and being a member of her junior high dance drill team. Sue got a prestigious scholarship to U.C. Berkeley and studied Pre-Med, then went on to get a Master’s degree from Berkeley and her M.D. from University of California. She became a Dermatologist, and works with both children and adults. Sue takes great pride in being able to improve the lives of her patients.
Watching Sue with Tyler has been a joy. She loves being a mom, and is always talking, reading or playing with Tyler. She has a knack for making him laugh and coo, a talent she uses all the time. I never realized how much one could laugh while changing diapers!
About Mike (by Sue)
When Mike was four years old, he told his mom, “When I grow up, I want to be a mommy.” It says a lot about his values. He calls his mom and dad every week, if not daily, and he is the first called when his friends move, because he always helps. He is carrying on his family traditions where family is the most important priority. His mom stayed at home to raise the family, and his dad, who loved playing on the floor with them when they were little, is still always available for them anytime. Watching him care for Tyler, I know Mike is bringing these parenting skills to our family.
Mike is the youngest of three children and his family has always been very close. Mike’s parents live just nine miles away, and we see them often. A few times a year, his brother and sister-in-law come to town with their family, and we spend as much time together as we can.
Mike is a mechanical engineer who specializes in designing and building novel scientific instruments for scientists working with DNA. He has worked at several biotech companies throughout his career, always with an eye toward working on new and better scientific instruments to help fight disease. He was an engineering student at the University of California and he loves working with his hands whether that be welding or engine repair.
As a child, Mike always wanted to be an artist, loved riding his bike and going on family camping trips. Mike still enjoys riding bicycles with a group of friends on Saturday mornings. He loves learning about everything he can (he’s great at trivia contests!) and he’s a wonderful photographer. Mike is already an amazing father—he is very family-oriented, dependable, loving, and patient. Seeing him walking around late at night, holding Tyler, gently patting him and putting him to sleep, well, even my Mom is impressed with how good a dad he is.
Our Home & Neighborhood
We live in Silicon Valley, south of San Francisco. Best known as the birthplace of high tech, living here offers great diversity with a mix of many different cultures. It’s a place where people are celebrated for who they are and what they do, whatever their background.
Our home has four bedrooms which includes plenty of room for a new nursery. We have a fenced-in backyard where we love to BBQ and work in the flower and vegetable garden. In the summer, we look forward to our tomato “jungle,” and harvesting our raspberry bushes, and blueberry plant. We have a variety of fruit trees and a lovely flower garden; Sue especially takes pride in growing her orchids and lilies.
We live in a great family-friendly neighborhood, where children play on the street, the neighbors close the street for a 4th of July block party, and people look out for each other. Celebrations of Christmas, Hanukkah, Lunar New Year, and Diwali (the Indian festival of lights) keep the winter bright.
Thoughts on Parenting
We chose our house because it is in one of the highest rated districts in the nation. Sue works part-time and Mike has a flexible schedule, so we have a lifestyle where our children are our priorities. We want them to know that we love them, trust them and respect them.
We made these choices—where we live, the jobs we chose, the hours we work and our home around the idea of providing a close, loving and supportive family for our children. This is something we have dreamed of and planned for since before we were married. We support the open adoption process and would welcome whatever level of contact you wish to have with your child.
Thank you for the opportunity to carry on our dream. We are excited and prepared to be loving parents to your child. We would be grateful to have the opportunity to connect with you. We can be reached toll free at 1-800-882-2131 or by email at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also reach our warm and helpful adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius and Holly Wotherspoon at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at email@example.com. You can also visit their website at www.adamsromer.com.