Dear Expectant Mother,
Hi! We are Tim and Justin. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter and consider us as parents for your child. We can only imagine how challenging this time is for you, but we greatly admire the decision you’ve made. We hope this letter allows you to get to know a bit about who we are, and who we want to be as parents. We’d love a chance to connect with you to share our excitement about being parents and also to hear about you and your desires for this child.
We met while running a 200‐mile relay race together with friends, and we’ve been laughing together and sharing our lives ever since. We are best friends who live a life of activity and adventure and shared interests, and we are bound by love and respect for each other. We were married last year, and we moved from San Francisco to San Rafael because we wanted a larger home near good schools where we could expand our family.
Lucy and Rufus, our two dogs, are a big part of our lives, and we take them with us wherever we go. Lucy has boundless energy, loves kids and will play with anyone. Rufus is a gentle, patient old soul who just wants to cuddle.
Where We Live
We live in a 4‐bedroom house on a quiet street in San Rafael, California, just north of San Francisco. The house was built in 1932 and the only other family that lived here adopted their only son. So, we don’t think it’s an accident that we’re the next family to live here! We’ve already chosen a room for the nursery. Our home is filled with laughter, great conversations, dinners with friends and lots of love. We have a beautiful yard (ready for a swing), a garden, big trees and lots of flowers. The elementary school is one of the best in the county, and it’s only three blocks away. Our neighbors are friendly and many of them have small children as well. San Rafael has a great downtown within walking distance from our house and is minutes away from beautiful natural areas, like the Redwood forest or beaches and the Pacific Ocean.
About Justin (by Tim)
Justin is not only my love, he’s also my best friend. There is no one I respect more. He is a quiet and gentle soul with a huge heart. Justin always puts others first and is above all concerned about the well‐being and happiness of those he loves and respects. I love watching him with his grandparents or with our niece and nephew, showing them great patience and respect.
Justin has a great sense of adventure and a love of the outdoors. has competed in the Ironman triathlon twice. In addition to running, biking and swimming, he also enjoys skiing, baking, good books and spending time in his woodworking shop. Right now he is working on a new baby bed. Justin’s inner strength and determination make him as successful in his career as he is as an athlete.
Justin is patient and determined, qualities I think will make him a great father. I can’t imagine a better person to introduce a kid to the outdoors and encourage a life‐long interest and respect for the environment. When I watch him playing games with our niece, or rocking our nephew, I know our child will be lucky to call him ‘dad.’
About Tim (by Justin)
Tim is my rock and my greatest love. He inspires me every day to be a better version of myself, and his unwavering confidence in me is one of the deepest sources of strength I could hope to draw on. I know he will approach fatherhood with that same inspiration.
Tim has a great love for nature and a curious mind that keeps him learning.
He has run 12 marathons. He’s an avid hiker and enjoys paddling the canoe around Lake Tahoe. In the winter Tim will be out skiing almost every weekend, right next to me. He can’t wait to be the dad on the slopes teaching our child how to ski. Indoors, Tim can usually be found reading anything about history.
Tim will be one of the best Dads a child could hope for. Tim adores his niece and nephew and showers them with love. He reads with them, asks them lots of questions and gives them plenty of encouragement. It is incredibly important to him that our child grows up with the confidence and support to follow his or her own dreams, whatever they may be.
Things We Love to Do
We love being outdoors. Over the years, we’ve run several marathons, hiked many mountains and visited many countries together. On weekends, we are often at our cabin in Lake Tahoe. We love to hike the Sierra Nevada mountains, canoe in the lake and ski and snowboard during the winter. Yet for all our adventures, some of our best times together are in the evenings after work when we make dinner, talk about our day, or read together on the couch.
We are both committed to our careers, but we believe strongly in a work‐life balance that lets us contribute to the world while pursuing joy in our lives.
Our companies offer flexible work options and we both plan to work from home at least one day per week.
Tim is currently a Managing Director at a human rights organization that works on ending human trafficking, and violent conflict around the world.
Justin is the Director of Marketing at a fast‐growing internet company that sells environmentally friendly home and personal care products.
Our Family and Friends
Family is important to us. We are both blessed with strong and supportive families, who love us individually and together as a couple. They are active in our lives and visit often. We are close to our parents, grandparents, and sisters, and we love spending time with our new niece and nephew. Our child will have the blessing of spending lots of time with three great‐grandparents, four grandparents, two aunts, one uncle, and two cousins who will love them unconditionally.
We have a great network of friends—many with small children whom we envision will be life‐long friends. They are dear to us, share our values and are active in our lives. Like us, they are excited to become aunties and uncles to our baby. And of course, our families will be an important part of our child’s life.
Our Thoughts on Parenting
We have a good life, with a lot of love and laughter. While we have a beautiful home, sweet dogs, and great careers, we have a lot of love yet to give. We know we will be wonderful parents, who will care for and love our child unconditionally. We will also be a guiding force in his or her life, working every day to instill a love of all people, the value of education, respect for the environment, and a sense of duty to make the world a better place. We will encourage our child’s interests, and we will be tireless soccer dads, or swim team dads, or science club dads, or art school dads. We will encourage and nurture whatever interest he or she may have.
Thank you again for taking the time to read this letter and learn a little more about us. We know you have a big decision ahead of you, and we would love the opportunity to connect with you, and hear about your own dreams for your child.
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