Dear Expectant Mother,
Hello, we are Michael and Madeleine. We adopted our daughter, Sarla Rose, three years ago. Through that process we had a glimpse of how difficult that decision was for our child’s mother. We are ready and eager to bring another child into our family now, and we are grateful beyond expressing that you would consider entrusting us with the care and love of your child. We admire and respect your courage in making this decision. After reading this letter, we would love an opportunity to connect with you, so you can learn more about us, and we can learn about your hopes for your baby.
We met in graduate school at Yale University in 1995, where Michael got his Ph.D. in Physics and Madeleine got hers in Ancient History. After a long romance and jobs on opposite coasts that kept us apart, we were finally able to settle down together in Northern California and have now been married for almost ten years. It seemed it would be hard to improve on the wonderful life we had together, but then Sarla joined our family and really jazzed things up!
We are a busy, playful family-we love to spend time with friends and relations, sing and dance together, eat good food, cozy up with books, and explore our world, near and far. We celebrate the weekends with homemade waffles and relaxing at home. With Michael’s family back East, every summer we head to the East Coast to hang out at the beach with all the aunts and uncles, cousins and grandparents. There were 21 cousins in Sarla’s generation at last count! We visit Michael’s parents in Maryland several times a year and video-chat with them each weekend. Madeleine’s parents still live in the Bay Area, and we see them all the time. Both sets of grandparents have been married for more than 40 years. The many cousins on both sides love Sarla and are eager for another cousin. We are endlessly grateful for the abundant love and support of our whole family.
We are also blessed with the best friends anyone could hope for, including friends who were adopted, friends who have adopted, and one dear friend who placed her son for adoption. Our friends help us introduce our daughter to diverse ethnicities and cultures. In particular, our Indian friends strengthen our efforts to have Sarla know her own heritage. Our friends also have terrific kids who are excellent playmates for ours.
I was raised in a family of four children in Berkeley, California. My parents instilled in my three younger brothers and me the values of justice, faith, education, and most of all, laughter. Now, as an adult, I am a positive, optimistic person, always interested in learning new things. I share my love of learning by teaching at a nearby university with a lively and ethnically diverse student body. I especially enjoy teaching American Ethnic History, African Studies, and Asian Studies. As a teacher, my schedule is flexible, which allows me to make family my priority. In my free time, I love to be with my family, make things grow in the garden, whip up good food, and knit with friends at a local café. I love to dance, particularly flamenco, but leaping and dancing around the house with Sarla is just as much fun and maybe even better exercise.
Madeleine by Michael: Madeleine is intelligent, warm-hearted and patient. She is clever and resourceful, able to fix a computer or find a great travel deal or put together a delicious meal in no time with whatever she’s got on hand, and she still has time to dance in the living room to the Nutcracker or La Bamba with Sarla or snuggle up with a stack of books to read with her. That’s all on top of the boundless dedication she has for her students. Madeleine is a popular and enthusiastic teacher. She is curious about people and what’s going on in the world and has first-hand experience to draw from. For example, she spent time in Syria as an archaeologist and made friends there, which gives her great compassion and insight into the conflict there now. But it is as a mother that Madeleine’s warm and nurturing personality really shines. She has great parenting skills and a lot of love.
I was born in Washington, D.C. and grew up in Maryland. I have a younger brother and sister. Since my parents grew up in Boston, most of our extended family is there. Many of my best memories of childhood are from the time spent each summer in New England with relatives, so we continue that tradition. My siblings and I were on many sports teams growing up, and I was also active in the debate team and boy scouts. More recently I’ve enjoyed scuba diving and the challenge of running a marathon or half-marathon. I currently do research, teach and advise students at UC Berkeley in computer science, statistics, and applied mathematics. It’s a challenging and exciting area that I really enjoy. I get invited to lectures in interesting places. Last year I had a meeting in Paris, so we all went for ten days of fun and exploring. It was great to see the city from the perspective of a parent, focusing on the cool playgrounds and children’s museums. I love being a dad and exploring the world with my little girl, who gives me a good excuse to really play.
Michael by Madeleine: Michael is smart and funny and loyal to the bone. He works on challenging and important problems at work, and he brings the same passion home. When he plays blocks with Sarla or with his nephews and nieces, he gets down and is fully into it, building tall towers or letting la dentista check his teeth for the hundredth time. Children love his calm and playful style; babies stop crying when he holds them, and older children like the way he explains things to them like they are real people.
Sarla came to live with us when she was three months old. She laughed and cooed and spit up all the time but rarely fussed. Now she is a beautiful, happy, athletic, three-year-old, who zooms around, laughing and singing. She spends her mornings during the week at Mi Escuelita, where she is learning all kinds of new things in Spanish and English and has a bunch of great friends. On the weekend, Michael takes her to swim lessons. She loves to read and be read to. She is outgoing and charming, and, to her mama’s great glee, an adventurous eater. Lately it’s been huge fun to listen to her put together very complicated sentences about her imaginary brothers and sisters and dinosaur friends. She is all ready to be a big sister!
We live in a lovely town halfway down the San Francisco peninsula. We live in a cozy and comfortable house in a neighborhood with lots of parks and children. We get over 300 trick-or-treaters at Halloween! In our backyard, we have grass and flowers, fruit trees, grapevines, and lots of tomato plants. It is a safe neighborhood; the kids walk to school and play outside a lot, riding bikes and organizing their own games. We are within walking distance of our downtown and regularly walk there to visit the farmer’s market or to attend concerts or go out for dinner, especially in the summer when there are free concerts downtown. We also love to take advantage of zoos, museums, and many other things that the Bay Area has to offer.
We want to offer our warm and loving home to another child. Like Sarla, he or she would be raised to be happy, healthy, curious, playful, and kind. Our child will always have our full support and encouragement to explore his or her heritage, identity, and past; and he or she would be welcomed and supported by our whole extended family and all our friends. We would share our faith and show our child the world and how he or she fits into a larger picture. Our child would receive the best education we can offer. Sarla, who is great at sharing her toys and is very gentle with other kids and babies, would be a wonderful big sister. We know that your child would always feel safe and well loved with us.
Thank you for considering our family in what we know is a very difficult decision. We would love to have the opportunity to connect with you and answer any questions you may have about our lives and family.
We can be reached toll free at 1-877-212-5159 or by email at email@example.com. You can also contact our friendly adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius, Holly Wotherspoon and Susan Romer, at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at firstname.lastname@example.org.