John and Francesca

Dear Expectant Mother,

Hello, we are Francesca and John. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter. We admire the courageous decision you are making, and recognize it is made out of deep love for your child. We have had a wonderful adoption experience with our son Paul and we look forward to bringing another child into our family to share our lives together. We hope this letter will let you get to know a little about us, and assure you how much we would treasure your child in our lives. We would appreciate the opportunity to tell you more about us and learn of your hopes for your child.

About Us

As best friends who met in college at Berkeley, California, we have a very happy marriage full of love and laughter. We communicate very well. We are sensitive to each other’s opinions and support each other completely. We delight in spending time together, whether taking walks, going out with friends, working on our home, at volunteer projects or just running errands. We love to travel, especially to visit Francesca’s cousins in Italy, where we have the opportunity stay in the house Francesca’s father grew up in. When not traveling to Italy, we enjoy going to see John’s sisters in Canada and Wales, friends in Scotland where John used to work, and the variety of family and friends we have throughout the US. We have also enjoyed our trips to Hawaii, Scandinavia and Malaysia.

We share a commitment to family, which is enriched everyday by our son Paul who came to us through adoption when he was three days old. There is nothing more important in this world to us than children. We are very enthusiastic about being parents. It has been one of our greatest joys to provide a nurturing, safe, environment for our child to grow academically, physically, spiritually, and emotionally-and we are excited to expand that loving care to another child. We plan to raise our children in the Catholic faith and are active in our parish, where we are blessed to be in a large, friendly, and caring faith community. Our parish elementary school-where Francesca previously taught-provides an excellent education as well as great opportunities for sports, service, music, art, and drama.

About Francesca, by John

2-About FrancescaFrancesca is loving and affectionate. She has a big heart, and is always ready to help family and friends. Born in San Francisco, she grew up with her brother in a close-knit family with her grandparents living upstairs. She was a voracious reader and loved to sing, and play the piano and flute. She also looked forward to the regular family vacations to Tahoe. Early on she began being the baker of the family, preparing birthday cakes and holiday desserts. When she was in college, she spent a year in Italy, which allowed her to form deep friendships with her Italian cousins.

After completing college at UC Berkeley and Stanford, Francesca was a gifted and devoted high school history teacher. She now relishes every minute of being a full time mother and continues to be active in the community by volunteering at the local library and at a nursing care home in San Francisco. As a quilter, she enjoys creating projects and gifts for family and friends. She sings in a community chorus at a local university. She loves to cook, especially Italian recipes she learned from her father and she continues to be an avid baker-especially cakes and pies. She and her father also donate up to 500 jars of award winning jam for charity events. She is in her element as our house fills up for holidays and large family celebrations.

She is endlessly creative with Paul. Throughout the day they work on projects, read, sing, play outside and draw, all the while speaking Italian. She takes him with her when volunteering at the community. She cherishes her time with him, and loves the opportunity to stay at home with him. We both feel that children are happy and secure when they can have a parent at home. We are excited to share our lives with another child.

About John, by Francesca

John is warm, generous, and very kind. He is patient and has a great sense of humor. As one of six children, John grew up in Oakland, in the San Francisco Bay Area. Family was central in his life and he always had a playmate close at hand. He was raised with a set of values that included the importance of family, faith, and education, as well as loyalty and hard work. A childhood full of baseball and basketball coached by his dad, tennis, music and camping, provided the foundation for lifelong interests.

John is an engineer, developing future technologies for communications and the Internet. As an engineer he also loves to build things at home, whether rebuilding furniture, wiring lamps or building trellises for the patio. He is an enthusiastic gardener who is particularly proud of his winter vegetable garden, which provides wonderful fresh vegetables for Francesca’s cooking. Paul in particular likes the fava beans right off the stalk. John is also proud of his expanding collection of fruit trees, including fig, pear, plum and lemon trees. He also enjoys reading-mostly historical novels and non-fiction.

John adores being a father. He is very patient with Paul, and his favorite time of the day is coming home to play with trains, draw, read and enjoy a cozy and happy bedtime with him. When they are together I hear peals of laughter from both of them. Paul and John particularly enjoy their weekly visits to John’s dad and to the park and lake across the street.

About Paul

Paul cannot wait to be a big brother and is already asking to hold the baby. He is a happy, loving, and curious 2-year-old boy, who is always eager to read, color, play with trains, and explore in the garden.

He loves to be with children of all ages and finds ways to include everyone present in his activities. He is quick with a laugh and full of ideas. Watching him grow and develop has brought so much meaning to our lives. We know he will be a wonderful big brother.

Our Home & Family

4-HomeWe are fortunate to live in a small city in the San Francisco Bay Area that offers many family activities: zoos, museums, parks, and many art and craft classes. We enjoy being near the rural parts of our county with its farms, parks and trails. Our home is on a quiet cul-de-sac in a close-knit neighborhood full of children of all ages, and is within walking distance to the neighborhood elementary school and playgrounds. We have a lawn in front and a backyard and garden perfect for children to play where Paul spends hours each day.

We are both blessed to have our warm and loving families nearby. We cherish the frequent time we spend together at concerts, picnics, and at nieces’ and nephews’ activities. Our parents instilled in us values that we intend to pass on to our children of faith, kindness, respect, hard work and unconditional love. Three grandparents, ten aunts and uncles, and ten cousins, as well as our many friends eagerly await the arrival of our new child.

Our Values

We are very excited to welcome a second child into our family. We both grew up with siblings and we would like our children to know the fun of sharing life with brothers and sisters in our home full of love, laughter, and joy. Like our parents, we believe in being active in our child’s learning and play while allowing them the freedom to just enjoy being kids. We teach by example the importance of working hard to be the best person you can be, of being loyal and caring to family and friends and being alert to reach out to those around you who need help. Education at home and school is important to us as central to fostering creativity and building a well-rounded character. We are devoted to raising confident, faith-filled and happy children.

Contact Us

5-Thank YouWe believe adoption is a wonderful way to build our family. Our son has filled our hearts with so much joy, and we are excited and eager to welcome another child into our lives, providing a loving, stable home full of acceptance, opportunities and happiness. If you feel that we could be the right family for your child, we welcome the opportunity for you to get to know us. Please feel free to call us toll free at 1-855-660-4482 or email us at If you prefer, you can contact our friendly adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius or Holly Wotherspoon at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at You can also visit their website at

Thank you for considering us. We wish you and your baby our very best.

Best wishes,
John & Francesca