Dear Expectant Mother,
Hi, my name is Brigitte and I’d like to thank you for reading my letter and for considering me in this very important choice. This is understandably a time of numerous emotions and I’d like to start by saying that I admire and honor your decision to take this path.
I hope this letter will give you an idea of who I am and a bit of my background, especially about having always dreamed of being a mother. More than anything I simply feel so much love and nurturance and I look forward to sharing it with a child. After reading this letter, I’d love a chance to connect with you so I can learn about your hopes for your baby and you can learn more about me.
My Friends & Family
I grew up in Southern California with my mom, dad, older brother, and our dog, Natasha. We were a close family and enjoyed outdoor activities like hiking, skiing, camping, and travel on a regular basis. My parents were born and raised in Europe—my Mom is French and my Dad is German. I like to say that I got my joy for life from the French side and my reliability from the German side. Due to having a French mother, I have dual citizenship with France and the U.S. I’m really proud of my heritage and plan to introduce my child to French and German culture, as well as other cultures around the world. Having the exposure to these cultures has helped open my eyes to the world, instilled a natural curiosity in me, and helped me understand and celebrate our diversity.
I am in a great relationship now with my boyfriend, Jim, who has two wonderful children, Claire and Henry. I knew I wanted to become a mother through adoption even before I met Jim; Jim, who is a kind, generous man and whose job it is to analyze internet data, is 100% supportive of my plans to adopt. He is a dedicated and loving father already to Claire and Henry who are 13 and 10 years old. We all love to spend time together such as playing games, going swimming, and watching movies. They’re all very excited about the adoption and having a baby join our home.
I’m a proud aunt and godmother to my niece, Simone. She’s an energetic 2-year-old who is such a joy in my life. Our favorite thing to do together is play on the slides at the park or crawl on the floor with her toys and stuffed animals. Our family regularly gets together for Sunday lunch. They often come over to my house since I have a large dining room and love to cook. I really enjoy family gatherings and get-togethers with friends and know this will be a great tradition for my child as well.
My friends are also a big part of my life. I’m lucky to have many close friends from different areas of my life—high school, college, work, activities, and my neighborhood, to name a few. I feel I created a larger family through my community of friends. We do group bike rides followed by a feast, take ski trips to Lake Tahoe, or simply have dinner where everyone cooks and brings a special dish. Many of my friends have children and they are looking forward to welcoming another little one to our community gatherings!
When I was in college I studied science; Neurobiology, Psychology, and Computer Programming. I have always been fascinated by the brain, our personalities, and how we experience the world. After working for a few years I went back to school for a Master’s degree in Educational Psychology. I now coach people on how to be better leaders and help the work environment be a better place for employees. The work I do helps people grow—expanding their self-awareness, their leadership skills and ultimately in their careers. I am very lucky to have such a rewarding job, and the opportunity to work with so many different people.
My friends and family consider me playful, caring, and warm. I love a good belly laugh, and I enjoy living life to the fullest. Cooking and eating good food are a passion of mine—I especially love dark chocolate! I’d say my favorite thing is baking—a delicious, rich chocolate cake or even a French apple tart. Music is also a big part of my life. I grew up playing the piano and sang in a choir from the age of 10 years old through 21. Last but definitely not least, I absolutely love to dance—all kinds of dance but especially swing dancing, salsa, tango, or simply free style. My soul simply comes alive when I dance.
Thoughts from a Dear Friend
“Brigitte is one of the kindest, most thoughtful, well-adjusted women I know. I have always been certain that Brigitte will make an amazing parent. She is the most loving, doting aunt to her niece Simone, and I’ve seen it with my own son, Zach, who has a special bond with Brigitte. She is known as ‘Auntie Brigitte’ in our household. Brigitte is very playful, fun and loving, but she also understands the role a parent must play in order to prepare a child for the world. Brigitte also has a community of very close friends who consider her family—myself included. Any child would be amazingly lucky to call Brigitte ‘mom’!”
—Cindy, friend of 20 years
My Home & Lifestyle
I live just south of San Francisco in the quaint city of San Carlos with my boyfriend, Jim, and his two children, Claire and Henry. I like to make our home feel like a nest—cozy, comfortable and homey. We have a big, sunny backyard and a beautiful room dedicated to the nursery. San Carlos is a safe and welcoming place to raise a family with very good schools and beautiful parks. The various parks have lots of playgrounds for kids and places for families to gather, picnic, or play games. It’s a wonderful place to raise a family.
Staying active is a big part of my life, too. My favorite activities are skiing, bicycling, hiking, and volleyball. Given that I’m also very curious by nature, I love to travel and explore different parts of the world. I think my favorite thing about travel is to learn about other cultures, explore their food and lifestyles, and to take in the beauty and diversity of the natural environments around the world. I hope to share my open outlook and multicultural experiences with my child, too.
My parents raised me Catholic but never pushed religion on me. I think that’s why I chose it for myself around the age of 18 and now enjoy that sense of community. Having a sense of grounding and belief in something bigger than myself has provided me with a foundation that supports me through life’s experiences. I will introduce my child to my faith, yet I never want to force anything on him or her. I think it’s important for people to make their own choices, and at the same time, I plan to offer the same sense of direction and values to my child that my parents did for me.
Thoughts About Parenting
Having a family has always been a dream of mine. Once I learned that I could not have a biological child, I was excited to learn more about adoption. I know this is the right path for me and in the end, truly a blessing. I’m ready to give my all to my child and have the strong support of my family, significant other, and friends. I’m excited to read to my child, expose him or her to music and the arts and let my child try different sports or outdoor activities. I am also excited to travel together, to have my child experience the world and learn what it has to offer. I believe in helping a child pursue his or her desires to reach their greatest potential. I will always be present for my child, offering support and encouragement. One vision I have is to volunteer with my child, not only to teach how to give back to our community but also to feel the joy of loving and giving to others. I plan to be there through the challenges and disappointments as well as the successes and joys. Through support and loving guidance, I know I will offer an enriching life full of special memories and most of all, love.
Thank You again for reading my letter and for considering me as the parent for your child. I’m eager to welcome a baby into my life and give him or her a loving home and family.
I look forward to hearing from you! Please feel free to call me at 1-877-300-4474 or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. You can also contact my friendly adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeckenius and Holly Wotherspoon at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788), email them at email@example.com. You can also visit their website at www.adamsromer.com.