Joe and Jill

Dear Expectant Mother,

We are Joe & Jill. Thank you so much for taking the time to learn a bit about us. We hope by reading our letter you will gain a sense of who we are and how we live our lives. We are loving parents of our adopted son, Jack, who is four years old, and we are ready and excited to bring a new child into our family.

Our hearts are with you as you consider the difficult decision of adoption. We believe that placing a child for adoption is one of the most loving things that anyone could ever do. We hope to have the opportunity to speak with you and find out about your hopes for your child.

Jill and JoeOur Life Together

We have been happily married for nine years. We met each other at work fifteen years ago, when we were both working as attorneys in northern California. From the moment we met, we found that we had many things in common and loved being together. We forged a great friendship, which grew into the deep love that we share today. Our marriage has been a wonderful journey together. We have shared many adventures here and all over the world, but our biggest and best adventure has been raising our son, Jack.

We love to travel as a family-whether that is a trip home to visit our families, going to Hawaii, camping or to any place that we have never been before. We also love taking walks and hikes together, going to baseball games, catching movies or making dinner together at home (particularly grilling outdoors). We like winding down in the evening reading books, playing board games and listening to music. But spending time together as a family is what makes all three of us the happiest.

About Jack

We were lucky enough to adopt Jack in 2010. We met Jack’s birth mother about a month before he was born and have been with Jack since the morning of his birth. We couldn’t have been blessed with a sweeter, more intelligent, more fun-loving son than Jack. Jack is now enjoying pre-school. He loves reading stories, going on hikes and riding his bike. We know that Jack will be an amazing big brother.

About Jill…by Joe

JillJill grew up in Albuquerque, New Mexico, with her mom, dad and older sister. Her parents still live there and we visit frequently. Jill’s mom is a retired schoolteacher and her dad is a semi-retired scientist. Growing up in New Mexico, Jill developed a great love of wide-open spaces and the outdoors. She attended both college and law school in New Mexico before she moved to California in the late 1990s. Jill works as an attorney, filing cases against landlords who violate safety codes at their rental properties. Jill enjoys her work because she feels like she makes a difference in tenants’ lives. She also appreciates the flexibility that her job offers her in setting her own schedule. Jill loves to read: histories, fiction, magazines or the newspaper, Jill will read anything she can get her hands on and then share what she has learned. She has taught me so much over the years about things that I had never known.

Jill is the best friend anyone could ask for-she is always there to lend support, to share the good times and the bad, and to have fun, too! More than anything, Jill has the most nurturing, loving soul of anyone I’ve ever known. Whether making us a great meal, giving me a hug at the end of a long day, or snuggling with Jack and our cat, Jill is a loving, supportive presence in our family.

Jill is an amazing, loving mother to Jack. She showers him with affection and provides him with patient guidance. Whether she’s playing make believe or hide-and-go-seek with him, or helping him with his writing, Jill’s love and dedication to Jack comes through in all she does. She is very excited to provide that same love and devotion to a new child.

About Joe…by Jill

JoeJoe grew up in Arcadia, a lovely community east of Los Angeles. Joe has Mexican heritage on his mother’s side and English/Irish heritage on his father’s side. Joe’s mom, who is fluent in Spanish, is a retired elementary school teacher (she is currently teaching Spanish to Jack). Joe attended college in southern California, before moving to northern California for law school. Joe works as a Deputy District Attorney, where he supervises less experienced attorneys. He is passionate about his work and he really cares about making this world a better, safer place. Joe loves the outdoors; he enjoys hiking, camping, backpacking, fishing, skiing, scuba diving and snorkeling. I did not grow up near the ocean and Joe was the first person to show me the wonders of the sea.

If I had to find the words that would best describe Joe, they would be fearless, compassionate, curious, loving, and loyal. He has the biggest heart of anyone I’ve ever met. Joe has a large group of friends (some going back to high school) and he is known as the organizer, getting everyone together for many different activities.

Even before we became parents, I knew Joe would be an amazing father, being the godfather to his friend’s son. He is patient and kind with children and loves helping them explore their world. Joe is wonderful with Jack, whether helping him learn to ride a bike, reading him a story, teaching him how to pitch a tent, or comforting him when he needs it.

Where We Live

HomeWe live in a sunny, 3-bedroom home that we own in a town 20 minutes south of San Francisco. We share our home with our cat, Holmes, who is the most affectionate cat we have ever met. We have a big back yard for barbecues or a game of catch or soccer. We live a few blocks from a great park with a playground and a wonderful library. Our community has several good public and private schools. We also live walking distance from a wonderful outdoor recreation area, bike path and the San Francisco Bay. We love that our house is in a safe, residential neighborhood (with great neighbors and lots of kids), but we are close enough to San Francisco so we can visit and take advantage of everything it has to offer.

Our Families

We love to spend time with our families. Jill’s sister, who now lives in Sacramento, California, is married and has a son (14) and a daughter (16), both of whom are very close to Jack. Jill often visits with her niece and nephew, as well as her big extended family located throughout California. Joe’s mom now lives near us in Northern California, but his large extended family still live in Southern California and we visit them regularly. Joe enjoys making visits to his beloved 92-year-old Grandmother just to surprise her! Our families get along famously and we often share Christmas and Thanksgiving together.

Raising a Family Together

Jill Joe and JackWe had both wanted a family of our own for a very long time before we adopted Jack, so we spent a lot of time thinking about how we wanted to raise a family. We want our child to grow up in a home filled with love, warmth and laughter; someplace to feel safe and secure. We are prepared to provide every opportunity our child desires for a good education. Education is extremely important to both of us, as it was to our parents. We feel that it has helped us build successful careers and also truly appreciate everything the world and other people have to offer. We also value travel and hope to show our child many different cultures. We want our child’s life to be filled with fun, adventure and most of all love. We both know we have a lot of love to share and want more than anything to spend our lives helping our child to grow up to be a loving, compassionate and happy adult.

Thank You

If we are lucky enough for you to chose us to be your child’s family, we can promise you that your child will be loved like no other. We feel so blessed with the love we have for each other and the life that we have built together, and we are excited to share it with our future family.

If you have any questions, we’d love to talk with you. If you would like to contact us directly, please call us toll free at 1-800-630-4516 or please email us at You can also reach our warm and helpful adoption attorneys, Karin Stoeackenius, Holly Wotherspoon and Susan Romer, at 1-800-U-Adopt-US (1-800-823-6788) or email them at

Jill & Joe